“Many of the difficulties we experience in life are not caused by our personal failures, but by entanglements in the family system. These entanglements often stem from a deep, unconscious love — a blind love — in which a child tries to carry the fate or pain of someone who was excluded or forgotten. Healing comes not from rejecting that loyalty, but from seeing it, honoring it, and giving everyone their rightful place. Then love can flow freely, in the right order.”